I get really confused by all this week stuff. Today I'm officially 11 weeks, but that means tomorrow I will be entering into my 12th week. And some of this stuff will be repeats since I just posted two days ago about my 10th week. Basically it means this one will be boring. :)
How Far Along: 11 weeks
Total Weight Gain/Loss: Don't know yet.
Maternity Clothes: Yup! Mainly pants, not really big enough for shirts yet, although I wear them sometimes.
Stretch Marks?: Nope.
Gender: Not sure yet. Only 5 weeks until we find out for sure!
Movement: Not yet!
Sleep: Pretty good actually.
Belly Button In or Out?: In.
What I Miss: Today I miss wine.
Cravings: Chinese.
Best Moment This Week: Not feeling so bloated.
What I’m Looking Forward To: Our appointment next week!
Picture: Not yet... :)
Thursday, April 5, 2012
Wednesday, April 4, 2012
10 Week Bumpdate
How Far Along: 10 weeks
Total Weight Gain/Loss: Not sure. Maybe a little weight gain--but we will find out next week!
Maternity Clothes: I bought two pairs of maternity work pants, finally. I need some more. I plan on buying some tomorrow, actually.
Stretch Marks?: Nope!
Gender: Not sure yet. Will find out in about 5 weeks!! I'm hoping maybe if it's a boy--we will find out at our 12 week ultrasound. A girl can hope, right?
Movement: Nope--I can't wait for that!
Sleep: I need to break down and get a body pillow. I want one that goes around my back and between my legs. I don't want one that goes in front of me. I might just buy a regular body pillow and if that doesn't work then spring for an expensive pregnancy one. We will see.
Belly Button In or Out?: In.
What I Miss: Not gagging at random things, having more energy, coffee--I just haven't been wanting it lately.
Cravings: Chinese (specifically crab rangoon) and Taco Bell Doritos Locos Tacos this week.
Best Moment This Week: Getting to show people I was pregnant at a wedding this weekend--it was fun!
What I’m Looking Forward To: My 12 week appointment is next week--yes I know I'm a little behind. I'm going to do my 11 week bumpdate later this week.
Picture: I have a couple, but again I'm not going to reveal them just yet. :) I need to be better about taking them.
Total Weight Gain/Loss: Not sure. Maybe a little weight gain--but we will find out next week!
Maternity Clothes: I bought two pairs of maternity work pants, finally. I need some more. I plan on buying some tomorrow, actually.
Stretch Marks?: Nope!
Gender: Not sure yet. Will find out in about 5 weeks!! I'm hoping maybe if it's a boy--we will find out at our 12 week ultrasound. A girl can hope, right?
Movement: Nope--I can't wait for that!
Sleep: I need to break down and get a body pillow. I want one that goes around my back and between my legs. I don't want one that goes in front of me. I might just buy a regular body pillow and if that doesn't work then spring for an expensive pregnancy one. We will see.
Belly Button In or Out?: In.
What I Miss: Not gagging at random things, having more energy, coffee--I just haven't been wanting it lately.
Cravings: Chinese (specifically crab rangoon) and Taco Bell Doritos Locos Tacos this week.
Best Moment This Week: Getting to show people I was pregnant at a wedding this weekend--it was fun!
What I’m Looking Forward To: My 12 week appointment is next week--yes I know I'm a little behind. I'm going to do my 11 week bumpdate later this week.
Picture: I have a couple, but again I'm not going to reveal them just yet. :) I need to be better about taking them.
Saturday, March 24, 2012
9 Week Bumpdate
How Far Along: 9 weeks
Total Weight Gain/Loss: I don't think I've gained too much yet. We will find out at our 12 week appointment--conveniently our scale is broken.
Maternity Clothes: Still wearing my maternity jeans and some shirts. I tried using a Belly Band this week, but not sure about it yet. I'm hoping to buy some maternity work pants soon.
Stretch Marks?: Nope, not yet.
Gender: I'm still calling it a boy. Most people still think it's a girl.
Movement: Nope, but I read that the baby responds to my touch now so sometimes I poke him a little to see if he will move around. :)
Sleep: I haven't been getting up in the middle of the night to pee anymore. And I slept with a pillow between my knees last night and I slept amazingly. It takes pressure off my hips/back.
Belly Button In or Out?: Still got an inny.
What I Miss: Having energy and acne medicine for my face (it looks horrible).
Cravings: I craved Long John Silvers once this week. Most things don't really sound good, so I'm just eating whatever sounds okay at the moment.
Best Moment This Week: Getting a TON of maternity clothes from a sweet lady at work!
What I’m Looking Forward To: Going to a wedding in Georgia this next weekend and hopefully showing off my little baby bump in the dress that I'm wearing.
Picture: I finally got my belly bump stickers to take pictures with this week-- I've already missed the 8 week one and the next one isn't until 12 weeks. But, I might still take one at 9 weeks with the 8 week sticker. But not until I announce my pregnancy on Facebook and on my real blog will I post a picture. :)
Total Weight Gain/Loss: I don't think I've gained too much yet. We will find out at our 12 week appointment--conveniently our scale is broken.
Maternity Clothes: Still wearing my maternity jeans and some shirts. I tried using a Belly Band this week, but not sure about it yet. I'm hoping to buy some maternity work pants soon.
Stretch Marks?: Nope, not yet.
Gender: I'm still calling it a boy. Most people still think it's a girl.
Movement: Nope, but I read that the baby responds to my touch now so sometimes I poke him a little to see if he will move around. :)
Sleep: I haven't been getting up in the middle of the night to pee anymore. And I slept with a pillow between my knees last night and I slept amazingly. It takes pressure off my hips/back.
Belly Button In or Out?: Still got an inny.
What I Miss: Having energy and acne medicine for my face (it looks horrible).
Cravings: I craved Long John Silvers once this week. Most things don't really sound good, so I'm just eating whatever sounds okay at the moment.
Best Moment This Week: Getting a TON of maternity clothes from a sweet lady at work!
What I’m Looking Forward To: Going to a wedding in Georgia this next weekend and hopefully showing off my little baby bump in the dress that I'm wearing.
Picture: I finally got my belly bump stickers to take pictures with this week-- I've already missed the 8 week one and the next one isn't until 12 weeks. But, I might still take one at 9 weeks with the 8 week sticker. But not until I announce my pregnancy on Facebook and on my real blog will I post a picture. :)
Thursday, March 15, 2012
8 Week Bumpdate
I could write so much---about how I've been feeling sick, thought I had the flu, been weaning off my Lexapro, etc. I don't feel like it. The last two days I have felt like a new woman. So therefore, here is my first 8 week bumpdate...
How Far Along: 8 weeks
Total Weight Gain/Loss: Today at the doctor was I actually a pound or two lighter than I normally am. So I say zero weight gain or loss. I fluctuate normally, anyway.
Maternity Clothes: I love them. I have some maternity jeans that I wear a lot. And some maternity shirts, but I mainly wear my normal clothes to work. But it's getting uncomfortable, so I'm in the market for some maternity clothes--and soon!
Stretch Marks?: No--I've not been as good about putting my belly cream on; I need to be better about that.
Gender: I'm thinking boy for some reason. My nephew and niece (and my mom) all say it's a girl. Who knows? The heart rate was 186 today. The old wives tale says that means girl, but you never know.
Movement: Not yet, but the baby was moving on the ultrasound today! It was moving its legs around. It was so cute!
Sleep: I get up once a night now--around 3 a.m.--to pee. I'm loving sleep, but am starting to not need naps daily like I did for a couple of weeks.
Belly Button In or Out?: In still-- although my belly is starting to stick out more. I know it's bloat, but it's fun.
What I Miss: Jimmy John's sandwiches, feeling 100% well, massages
Cravings: Not a whole lot--more aversions than cravings. Nothing really ever sounds good. Although, I have been always wanting Orange Leaf lately.
Best Moment This Week: Seeing the baby on the ultrasound and hearing the heart beat!
What I’m Looking Forward To: Our next appointment at 12 weeks and seeing the baby again on ultrasound.
Picture: I don't have a good picture yet, but hey-- this is an anonymous blog so I can't post a picture anyway. :)
How Far Along: 8 weeks
Total Weight Gain/Loss: Today at the doctor was I actually a pound or two lighter than I normally am. So I say zero weight gain or loss. I fluctuate normally, anyway.
Maternity Clothes: I love them. I have some maternity jeans that I wear a lot. And some maternity shirts, but I mainly wear my normal clothes to work. But it's getting uncomfortable, so I'm in the market for some maternity clothes--and soon!
Stretch Marks?: No--I've not been as good about putting my belly cream on; I need to be better about that.
Gender: I'm thinking boy for some reason. My nephew and niece (and my mom) all say it's a girl. Who knows? The heart rate was 186 today. The old wives tale says that means girl, but you never know.
Movement: Not yet, but the baby was moving on the ultrasound today! It was moving its legs around. It was so cute!
Sleep: I get up once a night now--around 3 a.m.--to pee. I'm loving sleep, but am starting to not need naps daily like I did for a couple of weeks.
Belly Button In or Out?: In still-- although my belly is starting to stick out more. I know it's bloat, but it's fun.
What I Miss: Jimmy John's sandwiches, feeling 100% well, massages
Cravings: Not a whole lot--more aversions than cravings. Nothing really ever sounds good. Although, I have been always wanting Orange Leaf lately.
Best Moment This Week: Seeing the baby on the ultrasound and hearing the heart beat!
What I’m Looking Forward To: Our next appointment at 12 weeks and seeing the baby again on ultrasound.
Picture: I don't have a good picture yet, but hey-- this is an anonymous blog so I can't post a picture anyway. :)
Tuesday, March 13, 2012
Big News!
NOTE: This was written on Friday, February 10th. More to come soon!
I AM PREGNANT!!! 7th month must be the charm. Ok-- let me back up. Here is how it happened.
Hubby was on his way home and asked if I needed anything before he came home. I said no, but then he asked if I wanted some wine. I said sure-- that would be great. Then I thought to myself-- I better test to make sure I'm not pregnant just in case. I'm either 9 or 10 dpo today---since I didn't take ovulation tests, I don't know when I actually ovulated. So I go in to the bathroom and take an internet cheapie (uber sensitive) test. And this is what I saw:
You may not see it, but I did! It was there. A very small, very faint pink line. My husband wasn't home yet. I took a million pictures of it and then went and got the Big Brother t-shirt I got for our dog and set it on the toilet seat with the test.
When my husband got home I told him to put everything down--I had something to show him. I took him into the bathroom and showed it to him. He said--what is this? I only see one line. I told him to keep looking and that it was positive and that we had to go get a digital test right away!
He scarfed down his dinner I had made him and then we went to Wal-mart to get a digital test. I got the random urge to pee, badly as soon as we were on our way home. I took the digital test which is when I got the "Pregnant"! It's the picture at the beginning of this post.
We are ecstatic!!!! I have been feeling a little bloated lately, constipated, I have sore breasts, been having stomach cramps, and have felt a little tired. I'm still worried because it's so early and of course we aren't telling anyone yet. I'm going to keep testing with my internet cheapies and call to make an appointment with my doctor on Monday.
I'm so glad that I tested "just in case". Hubby and I prayed that God would be with us during this time and that he would prepare us and keep the little baby in my belly safe. PRAISE THE LORD!! He is faithful and this whole journey was worth it!
Sunday, February 5, 2012
Grasping
I can't even begin to tell you about the cyclical nature of trying to conceive. Some days you are grasping, almost clawing at control of the situation. Like the other day, we hadn't tried on day 15 (as per our every other day schedule) and it was day 16. We were both too tired to try, so we decided not to. I almost couldn't go to sleep at first because I just knew that if we didn't get pregnant this morning it would be because we didn't try on day 15! But then I realized that if God wanted us to get pregnant this month, we would get pregnant whether we had sex on day 15 or not.
Then there are other days when I don't even thinking about it. I wouldn't go so far as to say that I go a whole day without thinking about it, but I don't obsess--check my period calendar--etc. some days. I'm either just busy or thinking about other things.
Then other days I'm just a little back and forth. Not grasping, not completely oblivious. Just kind of there. Thinking about it, not necessarily worried, just thinking. Hubby and I just found out that ANOTHER one of our friends is pregnant. That makes about 7 in our close friends circle. It's not that we aren't happy! It's just that, as my hubby put it, we want it to be our turn.
Today in my "Jesus Calling" devotional, I read this:
"To receive My Peace, you must change your grasping, controlling stance to one of openness and trust. The only thing you can grasp without damaging your soul is My hand."
God is always on time. In this day, with this quote, and certaintly He will be with this baby.
I've begun thinking about what it will be like after we actually have the baby. For the longest time, I've just been obsessed with getting pregnant, being pregnant. But now I'm more excited about being a parent, not just being pregnant. Although I am excited about that, but I'm shifting my focus to the rest of our life and what will change...not just the first 9 months.
It's a day to day battle. Things are going well. We are praying for patience, praying to trust in God's timing. We are in this together, and I wouldn't change that for the whole world.
Then there are other days when I don't even thinking about it. I wouldn't go so far as to say that I go a whole day without thinking about it, but I don't obsess--check my period calendar--etc. some days. I'm either just busy or thinking about other things.
Then other days I'm just a little back and forth. Not grasping, not completely oblivious. Just kind of there. Thinking about it, not necessarily worried, just thinking. Hubby and I just found out that ANOTHER one of our friends is pregnant. That makes about 7 in our close friends circle. It's not that we aren't happy! It's just that, as my hubby put it, we want it to be our turn.
Today in my "Jesus Calling" devotional, I read this:
"To receive My Peace, you must change your grasping, controlling stance to one of openness and trust. The only thing you can grasp without damaging your soul is My hand."
God is always on time. In this day, with this quote, and certaintly He will be with this baby.
I've begun thinking about what it will be like after we actually have the baby. For the longest time, I've just been obsessed with getting pregnant, being pregnant. But now I'm more excited about being a parent, not just being pregnant. Although I am excited about that, but I'm shifting my focus to the rest of our life and what will change...not just the first 9 months.
It's a day to day battle. Things are going well. We are praying for patience, praying to trust in God's timing. We are in this together, and I wouldn't change that for the whole world.
Thursday, February 2, 2012
What not to say...
I was going to come up with my own list, but I started googling it (of course). So, I've compiled a list of my favorite things I've read. I'll site the places where I found it if I use a direct quote. Here we go:
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What not to say to someone who is trying to conceive....
1. Just stop trying and it will happen.
Some people do actually have to try. Hard. And some people have to go to the doctor. Some hoodoo-voodoo way of conceiving doesn’talways work for everyone. God made doctors and doctors study this kind of stuff.
I know exactly how my body works now. I can tell when I’m ovulating and when I’m not. Even if I wanted to “stop trying”there would be no way. I’d still try to have sex on the right days. And if you wanted something bad enough, wouldn’t you try for it? A degree, a hobby, a new house? I am just trying for what I want.
Here is what you could say if someone said that to you: "Really? I thought you did have to have sex to make a baby!" (source www.thebump.com)
2. Just relax!
This one was my favorite:
"Thank you for this bit of wisdom! I can’t believe my doctor didn’t tell it to me earlier. I’ll definitely remind you of this next time you’re having problems with a life-altering decision. I’m sure it will make it easier." (source www.mommyish.com)
And—I lead a relaxing lifestyle—some may even call it lazy some days. I watch a lot of TV with my husband, I neglect housework until the weekends, I have great friendships, the most hilarious family around. I’m relaxed, okay!
Here is what you could say if someone said that to you: “I don’t that relaxing are going to increase my progesterone levels. Thanks, though.”
3. You are young...you have plenty of time.
Does this mean I’m stupid because I’m young? If I were 18, maybe. But I’m not. I’m almost 26 years old. My husband is over 30. We know we want this and it doesn’t change the fact that we want it because of our age.
While it is true that it’s easier to get pregnant at a younger age, it still doesn’t help.
Here is what you could say if someone said that to you: That doesn’t change our desire for it.
4. 6 months? That's nothing!There are people that have been trying for 3+ years!
“Infertility is emotionally, spiritually and, often, physically painful.Don’t negate another person’s pain by pointing out that there are others out there who hurt more. There are no winners in the Pain Olympics." (source Momlogic.com)
Also, pain is relative. 6 months to me may be excruciating while some people don’t even worry about it until they have been trying for a year. It’s all relative to the person.
Here is what you could say if someone said that to you: Yea—it’s all relative.
5. Everything happens for a reason.
While I wouldn’t take back these last months of trying to conceive, and while I do believe that God works everything out for his glory and good, I’m not sure that this is exactly comforting. At least not on this side of the story. Maybe AFTER I get pregnant, maybe. But it’s true…God’s ways are not my ways, and it says in the Bible that His ways are perfect. This one isn’t so bad, but only if you have the right attitude about it.
6. Are you pregnant yet?
Best thing to say for this one: Yes, I am and it must have slipped my mind to tell you…
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Let me just say that it doesn't bother me when people who have or currently are experiencing trying to conceive or infertility talk to me about these things. Sometimes I don't even care if they say these things to me. It's because they understand. They mean it from the purest place. Also, I don’t care if my closest friends say these things to me because they have my best interest in mind. It’s when some random person comes up and says this crap. That’s when I want to say something smart aleck…even though I normally don’t.
The best thing to say is, "I'm sorry. Please let me know how I can help. I’m always here to listen to you."
Hope some of these made you laugh or at least made you understand somethings a little better. I didn’t mean for any of them to across as mean, just from the heart and true.
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What not to say to someone who is trying to conceive....
1. Just stop trying and it will happen.
Some people do actually have to try. Hard. And some people have to go to the doctor. Some hoodoo-voodoo way of conceiving doesn’talways work for everyone. God made doctors and doctors study this kind of stuff.
I know exactly how my body works now. I can tell when I’m ovulating and when I’m not. Even if I wanted to “stop trying”there would be no way. I’d still try to have sex on the right days. And if you wanted something bad enough, wouldn’t you try for it? A degree, a hobby, a new house? I am just trying for what I want.
Here is what you could say if someone said that to you: "Really? I thought you did have to have sex to make a baby!" (source www.thebump.com)
2. Just relax!
This one was my favorite:
"Thank you for this bit of wisdom! I can’t believe my doctor didn’t tell it to me earlier. I’ll definitely remind you of this next time you’re having problems with a life-altering decision. I’m sure it will make it easier." (source www.mommyish.com)
And—I lead a relaxing lifestyle—some may even call it lazy some days. I watch a lot of TV with my husband, I neglect housework until the weekends, I have great friendships, the most hilarious family around. I’m relaxed, okay!
Here is what you could say if someone said that to you: “I don’t that relaxing are going to increase my progesterone levels. Thanks, though.”
3. You are young...you have plenty of time.
Does this mean I’m stupid because I’m young? If I were 18, maybe. But I’m not. I’m almost 26 years old. My husband is over 30. We know we want this and it doesn’t change the fact that we want it because of our age.
While it is true that it’s easier to get pregnant at a younger age, it still doesn’t help.
Here is what you could say if someone said that to you: That doesn’t change our desire for it.
4. 6 months? That's nothing!There are people that have been trying for 3+ years!
“Infertility is emotionally, spiritually and, often, physically painful.Don’t negate another person’s pain by pointing out that there are others out there who hurt more. There are no winners in the Pain Olympics." (source Momlogic.com)
Also, pain is relative. 6 months to me may be excruciating while some people don’t even worry about it until they have been trying for a year. It’s all relative to the person.
Here is what you could say if someone said that to you: Yea—it’s all relative.
5. Everything happens for a reason.
While I wouldn’t take back these last months of trying to conceive, and while I do believe that God works everything out for his glory and good, I’m not sure that this is exactly comforting. At least not on this side of the story. Maybe AFTER I get pregnant, maybe. But it’s true…God’s ways are not my ways, and it says in the Bible that His ways are perfect. This one isn’t so bad, but only if you have the right attitude about it.
6. Are you pregnant yet?
Best thing to say for this one: Yes, I am and it must have slipped my mind to tell you…
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Let me just say that it doesn't bother me when people who have or currently are experiencing trying to conceive or infertility talk to me about these things. Sometimes I don't even care if they say these things to me. It's because they understand. They mean it from the purest place. Also, I don’t care if my closest friends say these things to me because they have my best interest in mind. It’s when some random person comes up and says this crap. That’s when I want to say something smart aleck…even though I normally don’t.
The best thing to say is, "I'm sorry. Please let me know how I can help. I’m always here to listen to you."
Hope some of these made you laugh or at least made you understand somethings a little better. I didn’t mean for any of them to across as mean, just from the heart and true.
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